Well, first and foremost, thank you so very much for the mention and I’m truly touched and grateful that you appreciate my work, and beyond this, thankful that you’ve brought these other brilliant minds to my attention through this piece. Going down the list and subscribing to them now.

Every single one of the people on this list described something that I feel that we all can relate to here, though so many can’t out there in society, and one short, sweet, and concise couple of sentences hit me hard in the “shame” area of who I am, and it was this by David Blixt:

Listen to the women. That’s been my mantra. Listen. Just listen.

And yeah, it’s uncomfortable. The more I hear, the more I look at my own past behavior and say, ‘Well, shit, that was toxic and creepy as hell.’”

This is the story of my life, here, too real, though I didn’t tell it with quite the earnestness that he did, and intrestingly enough, this is actually the very topic I’m writing about in my other tab: listening.

(The Best Men Are Sexually Experienced Men can be found here [no, it’s probably not what you’re thinking]) and to quote that piece directly:

“Sign up for some women’s forums online, let’s not write them off as “complaining” anymore like Sigmund Freud did and our institutionalized sexism which has until this point. Listen. Actually, listen.”

That’s exactly how most of it happened with me; only some of any group of people are going to be both brave and capable enough to look at themselves with an honest lens, even if their shortcomings and toxicity are long in the past — because admitting to toxicity in the past requires changing whatever risidual toxicity or artifacts leftover from that toxicity we may carry with us today…but it’s something we’re still capable of, even if it’s hard, and we absolutely should for reasons to lengthy to list.

Thank you, again, Heather M. Edwards…sincerely and from the bottom of my heart.

From Los Angeles, California. Life isn’t a series of many moments, but one moment that is always changing. Buy me coffee here: https://ko-fi.com/joeduncan

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